Amy Chua Parent Quotations

I think if you're a 'tiger parent' early on, you don't need to be a 'helicopter parent' in high school.

Westerners often laud their children as 'talented' or 'gifted', while Asian parents highlight the importance of hard work. And in fact, research performed by Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck has found that the way parents offer approval affects the way children perform, even the way they feel about themselves.

I once won a second prize in a history concert. My parents came to the ceremony. Somebody else had won the prize for best all-around student. Afterwards my father said to me, 'Never, ever disgrace me like that again.' When I tell my Western friends, they are aghast. But I adore my father. It didn't knock my self-esteem at all.

Don't assume your child is weak. If you, the parent, assume that they can't take anymore, what kind of signal are you sending them?

To be honest, I know that a lot of Asian parents are secretly shocked and horrified by many aspects of Western parenting.

Chinese parents believe that their kids owe them everything.

Unlike Western parents, reminding my child of Lord Voldemort didn't bother me.

My goal as a parent is to prepare you for the future, not to make you like me.

Parenting cannot just be one size fits all.

All decent parents want to do what's best for their children. The Chinese just have a totally different idea of how to do that.

What Chinese parents understand is that nothing is fun until you're good at it. pg 29