Anthony de Mello Self Quotations

Silence is not the absence of sound, but the absence of self.

Rare indeed, is the relationship in which the other is not cultivated for what one can get for oneself.

The only way someone can be of help to you is in challenging your ideas. If you're ready to listen and if you're ready to be challenged, there's one thing that you can do, but no one can help you. What is this most important thing of all? It's called self-observation.

Ordinarily, everything we do is in our self-interest. Everything.

No person on earth has the power to make you unhappy. There is no event on earth that has the power to disturb you or hurt you. No event, condition, situation, or person. Nobody told you this; they told you the opposite. That's why you're in the mess you're in right now. That is why you're asleep. They never told you this. But it's self-evident.

All that you give to others you are giving to yourself.