When I'm talking to groups that are all men, we talk about how the masculine role limits them. They often want to talk about how they missed having real fathers, real loving, present fathers, because of the way that they tried to fit the picture of masculinity.
There's more variation among human groups than between human groups.
When you say something in a wrong group - it will never be right, so you can not say anything wrong, when you don't belong to a group.
Transformation happens in small groups. Each person can speak and all listen.