Charlotte Perkins Gilman Quotations

The first duty of a human being is to assume the right functional relationship to society - more briefly, to find your real job, and do it.

To swallow and follow, whether old doctrine or new propaganda, is a weakness still dominating the human mind.

The labor of women in the house, certainly, enables men to produce more wealth than they otherwise could; and in this way women are economic factors in society. But so are horses.

Audiences are always better pleased with a smart retort, some joke or epigram, than with any amount of reasoning.

The female of the genus homo is economically dependent on the male. He is her food supply.

When the mother of the race is free, we shall have a better world, by the easy right of birth and by the calm, slow, friendly forces of evolution.

Only as we live, think, feel, and work outside the home, do we become humanly developed, civilized, socialized.

There is no female mind. The brain is not an organ of sex. As well speak of a female liver.

To attain happiness in another world we need only to believe something, while to secure it in this world we must do something.

But reason has no power against feeling, and feeling older than history is no light matter.

Eternity is not something that begins after you're dead. It is going on all the time. We are in it now.

Exciting literature after supper is not the best digestive.

New York - that unnatural city where every one is an exile, none more so than the American.

In New York City, everyone is an exile, none more so than the Americans.

The one predominant duty is to find one's work and do it.

Death? Why this fuss about death? Use your imagination, try to visualize a world without death! Death is the essential condition of life, not an evil.

Death is the essential condition of life, not an evil.

Life is a verb, not a noun.

We grovel and "worship" and pray to God to do what we ourselves ought to have done a thousand years ago, and can do now, as soon as we choose.

A man's honor always seems to want to kill a woman to satisfy it.

Through it [literature] we know the past, govern the present, and influence the future.

[Warfare is] maleness in its absurdest extremes. Here is to be studied the whole gamut of basic masculinity, from the initial instinct of combat, through every form of glorious ostentation, with the loudest accompaniment of noise.

Love grows by service.

We all need one another; much and often. Just as every human creature needs a place to be alone in, a sacred, private "home" of his own, so all human creatures need a place to be together in, from the two who can show each other their souls uninterruptedly, to the largest throng that can throb and stir in unison.

It would have saved trouble had I remained Perkins from the first, this changing of women's names is a nuisance we are now happily outgrowing.

It is the duty of youth to bring fresh new powers to bear on Social progress. Each generation of young people should be to the world like a vast reserve force to a tired army. They should life the world forward. That is what they are for.

The time is approaching when we shall consider it abhorrent to our civilization to allow a human being to die in prolonged agony which we should mercifully end in any other creature.

The child learns more of the virtues needed in modern life-of fairness, of justice, of comradeship, of collective interest and action-in a common school than can be taught in the most perfect family circle

A normal feminine influence in recasting our religious assumptions will do more than any other one thing to improve the world.

One religion after another has accepted and perpetuated man's original mistake in making a private servant of the mother of the race.

The home is a human institution. All human institutions are open to improvement.

Let us inquire what glory there was in an omnipotent being torturing forever a puny little creature who could in no way defend himself? Would it be to the glory of a man to fry ants?

A house does not need a wife any more than it needs a husband.

If we once admit that our life is here for the purpose of race-improvement, then we question any religion which does not improve the race, or the main force of which evaporates, as it were, directing our best efforts toward the sky.... Improvement in the human race is not accomplished by extracting any number of souls and placing them in heaven, or elsewhere. It must be established on earth, either through achievement in social service, or through better children.

It is the same woman, I know, for she is always creeping, and most women do not creep by daylight.

The softest, freest, most pliable and changeful living substance is the brain-the hardest and most iron-bound as well.

It is told that Buddha, going out to look on life, was greatly daunted by death. "They all eat one another!" he cried, and called it evil. This process I examined, changed the verb and said, "They all feed one another," and called it good.

Eternity is not something that begins after you are dead. It is going on all the time.

In great cities where people of ability abound, there is always a feverish urge to keep ahead, to set the pace, to adopt each new fashion in thought and theory as well as in dress - or undress.

In our steady insistence on proclaiming sex-distinction we have grown to consider most human attributes as masculine attributes, for the simple reason that they were allowed to men and forbidden to women.

To speak broadly, the troubles of life as we find them are mainly traceable to the heart or the purse.

There should be an end to the bitterness of feeling which has arisen between the sexes in this century.

If fifty men did all the work, / And gave the price to five, / And let those five make all the rules - / You'd say the fifty men were fools, / Unfit to be alive.

Said I, in scorn all burning hot,In rage and anger high,"You ignominious idiot,Those wings are made to fly!

A million million worlds that move in peace;A million mighty laws that never cease;And one small ant-heap, hidden by small weeds,Rich with eggs, slaves and store of millet-seeds.They sleep beneath the sodAnd trust in God.

To work is not only a right, it is a duty. To work to the full capacity of one's powers is necessary for human development - the full use of one's best faculties - this is the health and happiness for both man and woman.

Many years later I was told that the great specialist had admitted to friends of his that he had altered his treatment of neurasthenia since reading The Yellow Wallpaper.It was not intended to drive people crazy, but to save people from being driven crazy, and it worked.

However, one cannot put a quart in a pint cup.

For men obsessed with women's underwear, a course in washing, ironing and mending is recommended.

So when the great word "Mother!" rang once more, I saw at last its meaning and its place; Not the blind passion of the brooding past, But Mother -- the World's Mother -- come at last, To love as she had never loved before -- To feed and guard and teach the human race.

Grateful return for happiness conferred is not the method of exchange in a partnership. The comfort a man takes with his wife is not in the nature of a business partnership, nor are her frugality and industry.

The fact that women in the home have shut themselves away from the thought and life of the world has done much to retard progress.We fill the world with the children of 20th century A.D. fathers and 20th century B.C. mothers.

The religious need of the human mind remains alive, never more so, but it demands a teaching which can be understood. Slowly an apprehension of the intimate, usable power of God is growing among us, and a growing recognition of the only worth-while application of that power-in the improvement of the world.

Not woman, but the condition of woman, has always been a doorway of evil.

What we do modifies us more than what is done to us.

We are pushed forward by the social forces, reluctant and stumbling, our faces over our shoulders, clutching at every relic of the past as we are forced along; still adoring whatever is behind us. We insist upon worshipping 'the God of our fathers.' Why not the God of our children? Does eternity only stretch one way?

In the field of economics we maintain to this day some of the most primitive ideas, some of the most radically false ideas, some of the most absurd ideas a brain can hold. ... but all this give no uneasiness to the average brain. That long-suffering organ has been trained for more thousands of years than history can uncover to hold in unquestioning patience great blocks of irrelevant idiocy and large active lies.

A man does not have to stay at home all day, in order to love it; why should a woman?

The best proof of man's dissatisfaction with the home is found in his universal absence from it.

Shall you complain who feed the world? Who clothe the world? Who house the world? Shall you complain who are the world, Of what the world may do? As from this hour You use your power, The world must follow you!

We have built into the constitution of the human race the habit and desire of taking, as divorced from its natural precursor and concomitant of making.

Specialization and organization are the basis of human progress.

Fine blunderers in ethics we are, so generally conveying to children the basic impression that pleasantness must be wrong, and right doing unpleasant!

The world is quite right. It does not have to be consistent.

The women who do the most work get the least money, and the women who have the most money do the least work.

Maternal instinct, merely as an instinct, is unworthy of our superstitious reverence.

Legitimate sex-competition brings out all that is best in man.

No matter what the belief, if it had modestly said, 'This is our best thought, go on, think farther!' then we could have smoothly outgrown our early errors and long since have developed a religion such as would have kept pace with an advancing world. But we were made to believe and not allowed to think. We were told to obey, rather than to experiment and investigate.

It is not for nothing that a man's best friends sigh when he marries, especially if he is a man of genius.

Until mothers earn their livings, women will not

It is not that women are really smaller-minded, weaker-minded, more timid and vacillating, but that whosoever, man or woman, lives always in a small, dark place, is always guarded, protected, directed and restrained, will become inevitably narrowed and weakened by it.

The mother- poor invaded soul- finds even the bathroom door no bar to hammering little hands.

I have preferred chloroform to cancer

There was a time when Patience ceased to be a virtue. It was long ago.

The people people have for friends Your common sense appall But the people people marry Are the queerest folk of all.

While we flatter ourselves that things remain the same, they are changing under our very eyes from year to year, from day to day.

And woman should stand beside man as the comrade of his soul, not the servant of his body,

I cry at nothing, and cry most of the time.

The mother as a social servant instead of a home servant will not lack in true mother duty. From her work, loved and honored though it is, she will return to her home life, the child life, with an eager, ceaseless pleasure, cleansed of all the fret and fraction and weariness that so mar it now.

The home is the center and circumference, the start and the finish, of most of our lives.

To be surrounded by beautiful things has much influence upon the human creature; to make beautiful things has more.

The difference is great between one's outside "life," the things which happen to one, incidents, pains and pleasures, and one's "living."

I was climbing up a mountain-path With many things to do, Important business of my own, And other people's too, When I ran against a Prejudice That quite cut off the view.

Where young boys plan for what they will achieve and attain, young girls plan for whom they will achieve and attain.

Until we see what we are, we cannot take steps to become what we should be.

Now why should that man have fainted? But he did,and right across my path by the wall, so that I had to creep over him every time!

The original necessity for the ceaseless presence of the woman to maintain that altar fire - and it was an altar fire in very truth at one period - has passed with the means of prompt ignition; the matchbox has freed the housewife from that incessant service, but the feeling that women should stay at home is with us yet.

There are things in that paper that nobody knows but me, or ever will.

But I MUST say what I feel and think in some way — it is such a relief! But the effort is getting to be greater than the relief.

In a sick society, women who have difficulty fitting in are not ill but demonstrating a healthy and positive response.

At any given period in history the ideas of the common mind are found to antedate the facts. The facts of the twentieth century are approached with the ideas, feelings, prejudices of the tenth.

Concepts antedate facts.

If only religion could be brought to take an interest in this earthly future, what a help it would be! ... Think of the appeal to the less spiritual of us, to those who never did get enthusiastic about eternity, or care so tenderly about their own souls, yet who could rise to the thought of improving this world for the children they love, and their children after them.

Its time we woke up,” pursued Gerald, still inwardly urged to unfamiliar speech. “Women are pretty much people, seems to me. I know they dress like fools - but who’s to blame for that? We invent all those idiotic hats of theirs, and design their crazy fashions, and what’s more, if a woman is courageous enough to wear common-sense clothes - and shoes - which of us wants to dance with her?

(I would not say it to a living soul, of course, but this is dead paper and a great relief to my mind

I'm sure I never used to be so sensitive. I think it is due to this nervous condition.

Architecture might be more sportive and varied if every man built his own house, but it would not be the art and science that we have made it; and while every woman prepares food for her own family, cooking can never rise beyond the level of the amateur's work.

Never in all her life had she imagined that this idolized millinery could look, to those who paid for it, like the decorations of an insane monkey.

This is the woman's century, the first chance for the mother of the world to rise to her full place . . . and the world waits while she powders her nose.

Woman" in the abstract is young, and, we assume, charming. As they get older they pass off the stage, somehow, into private ownership mostly, or out of it altogether.