An identity based in the one-way love of God does not take into account public opinion or, thankfully, even personal opinion.
There's absolutely no way you can feel the freedom to embarrass and humiliate yourself unless you have finally recognized that your identity is in someone other than yourself.
Here's one way I can know that I've forgotten the gospel of grace: when your sin bothers me more than my sin.
My lifestyle got so disruptive to my family that my parents had no choice but to say, "You can't live here any longer if you're going to live this way." So, I was thrilled about it - thrilled!
Christianity is in no way a stoic faith. It fundamentally rejects the "stiff upper lip" school of thought.
The way of God's grace becomes indispensable when we realize that the way of God's law is inflexible.
Grace is upside-down, to-do-list wrecking, scandalous and way-too free. It's one-way love.