Guilt [is] a tool, rather than a weapon against the self.
I wish I could say I felt guilty for what I did. I don't.
Let the guilt teach you how to behave next time,
It happened. It was awful. You aren't perfect. That's all there is. Don't confuse your grief with guilt.
Maybe there's more we all could have done, but we just have to let the guilt remind us to do better next time.
Maybe time would not feel as heavy if I didn't have this guilt -- the guilt of knowing the truth and stuffing it down where no one can see it, not even Tobias. Maybe I should not be so afraid of saying anything, because honesty will make me feel lighter.
Don't confuse your grief with guilt.