As we live we all get caught and torn by various traps. Nobody escapes them. Some even live with them. The idea is to realize that a trap is a trap. If you are in one and you don't realize it, then you're finished.
Gradually I came to realize that my understanding of women goes only as far as the pleasure is concerned.
there are worse things than being alone but it often takes decades to realize this and most often when you do it's too late and there's nothing worse than too late