If we can't face our losses, we can't be present either fully to everything that is. When people have cut off or not made peace with some part of themselves, they miss out on other aspects of life.
My depression is not something very special. A lot of people go through depression. My divorce is not something very special; a lot of people go through divorce.
For many people who were never religious or who leave the religion of their childhood behind, it's the experience of having children of your own that brings an urgency to the question of what you believe.
Mystery is a birthright of theology and faith, but you often do find religious people grasping for answers that shut things down and narrow what is possible.
If we cant face our losses, we cant be present either fully to everything that is. When people have cut off or not made peace with some part of themselves, they miss out on other aspects of life.