Ann Landers Quotations

Love is friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses.

Opportunities are usually disguised as hard work, so most people don't recognize them.

All married couples should learn the art of battle as they should learn the art of making love. Good battle is objective and honest - never vicious or cruel. Good battle is healthy and constructive, and brings to a marriage the principles of equal partnership.

Keep in mind that the true measure of an individual is how he treats a person who can do him absolutely no good.

You need that guy like a giraffe needs strep throat.

The trouble with talking too fast is you may say something you haven't thought of yet.

Know yourself. Don't accept your dog's admiration as conclusive evidence that you are wonderful.

Sensual pleasures have the fleeting brilliance of a comet; a happy marriage has the tranquillity of a lovely sunset.

Don't accept your dog's admiration as conclusive evidence that you are wonderful.

If you have love in your life, it can make up for a great many things that are missing. If you don't have love in your life, no matter what else there is, it's not enough.

I don't believe that you have to be a cow to know what milk is.

Expect trouble as an inevitable part of life and repeat to yourself, the most comforting words of all; this, too, shall pass.

Nobody gets to live life backward. Look ahead, that is where your future lies.

Class is considerate of others. It knows that good manners is nothing more than a series of petty sacrifices.

Maturity: Be able to stick with a job until it is finished. Be able to bear an injustice without having to get even. Be able to carry money without spending it. Do your duty without being supervised.

The poor wish to be rich, the rich wish to be happy, the single wish to be married, and the married wish to be dead.

One out of four people in this country is mentally unbalanced. Think of your three closes friends; if they seem OK, then you're the one.

People who drink to drown their sorrow should be told that sorrow knows how to swim.

There could be no honor in a sure success, but much might be wrested from a sure defeat.

If you marry a man who cheats on his wife, you'll be married to a man who cheats on his wife.

Class never tries to build itself up by tearing others down. Class is already up and need not strive to look better by making others look worse.

Know when to tune out, if you listen to too much advice you may wind up making other peoples mistakes.

At every party there are two kinds of people - those who want to go home and those who don't. The trouble is, they are usually married to each other.

People who care about each other enjoy doing things for one another. They don't consider it servitude.

Class is the sure-footedness that comes with having proved you can meet life.

No one has the right to destroy another person's belief by demanding empirical evidence.

Class can 'walk with kings and keep its virtue and talk with crowds and keep the common touch.' Everyone is comfortable with the person who has class because that person is comfortable with himself.

The Lord gave us two ends - one to sit on and the other to think with. Success depends on which one we use the most.

Too many people today know the price of everything and the value of nothing.

Television has proved that people will look at anything rather than each other.

I advise keeping four feet on the floor and all hands on deck.

Trouble is the common denominator of living. It is the great equalizer.

It is far better to be alone than to wish you were

Imagine you had a bank that each morning credited your account with $1,440 - with one condition: whatever part of the $1,440 you failed to use during the day would be erased from your account, and no balance would be carried over. What would you do? You'd draw out every cent every day and use it to your best advantage. Well, you do have such a bank, and its name is time. Every morning, this bank credits you with 1,440 minutes. And it writes off as forever lost whatever portion you have failed to invest to good purpose.

At age 20, we worry about what others think of us. At age 40, we don't care what they think of us. At age 60, we discover they haven't been thinking of us at all.

Remember, it takes two to make an argument. The one who is wrong is the one who will be doing most of the talking.

In the end, it's not what you do for your children but what you've taught them to do for themselves.

Are you better off with him or without him?

Let this coming year be better than all the others. Vow to do some of the things you have always wanted to do but could not find the time. Call up a forgotten friend. Drop an old grudge, and replace it with some pleasant memories. Vow not to make a promise you do not think you can keep. Walk tall, and smile more. You will look 10 years younger. Do not be afraid to say, I love you. Say it again. They are the sweetest words in the world.

Maturity is the ability to control anger and settle differences without violence or destruction. The mature person can face unpleasantness, frustration, discomfort and defeat without collapsing or complaining. He/she knows he cannot have everything his/her own way every time. He/she is able to defer to circumstances, to other people-and to time. He/she knows when to compromise and is not too proud to do so.

Hanging onto resentment is letting someone you despise live rent-free in your head.

Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.

It's one of the ironies of human nature that the most sensitive people are generally insensitive to the feelings of others.

Being interested is more important than being interesting.

Anyone who believes the competitive spirit in America is dead has never been in a supermarket when the cashier opens another check-out line.

Love is friendship that has caught fire. ... Love is content with the present, it hopes for the future, and it doesn't brood over the past. It's the day-in and day-out chronicle of irritations, problems, compromises, small disappointments, big victories and working toward common goals. If you have love in your life it can make up for a great many things you lack. If you don't have it, no matter what else there is, it's not enough.

Nobody gets to live life backward. Look ahead; that is where your future lies. Opportunities are usually disguised as hard work, so most people don't recognize them. People who care about each other enjoy doing things for one another. There are really only three types of people: those who make things happen, those who watch things happen, and those who say, What happened?

All marriages are happy, it's living together afterward that's tough.

The real trick is to stay alive as long as you live.

Maturity is the art of living in peace with that which cannot be changed, the courage to change that which should be changed, no matter what it takes, and the wisdom to know the difference.

When a person begins to yell during an argument, it is a tip-off that he is unsure of himself.

When life's problems seem overwhelming, look around and see what other people are coping with. You may consider yourself fortunate.

Maturity is many things. It is the ability to base a judgment on the big picture, the long haul.

Warmth, kindness, and friendship are the most yearned for commodities in the world. The person who can provide them will never be lonely.

Nobody says you must laugh, but a sense of humor can help you overlook the unattractive, tolerate the unpleasant, cope with the unexpected, and smile through the day.

Maturity is the ability to harness your abilities and your energies and do more than is expected. The mature person refuses to settle for mediocrity. He/she would rather aim high and miss the mark than low-and make it.

No person ever died by drowning in their own sweat.

People, like water, seek their own level.

What the majority of American children needs is to stop being pampered, stop being indulged, stop being chauffeured, stop being catered to. In the final analysis, it is not what you do for you children but what you have taught them to do for themselves that will make them successful human beings.

Don't give up. Keep going. there is always a chance that you stumble onto something terrific. I have never heard of anyone stumbling over anything while he was sitting down

A happy marriage has the tranquility of a lovely sunset.

My personal recipe for success is- Do what you love and don't look at the clock.

Strong role models and unconditional love can heal even the most emotionally impoverished person, and that goes for adults as well as youngsters.

Love is content with the present, it hopes for the future and it doesn't brood over the past.

Rose-colored glasses are never made in bifocals. Nobody wants to read the small print in dreams.

Many peo­ple know the price of every­thing and the value of noth­ing

I was naive, but I certainly was not duplicitous.

Parents do not owe their progeny an inheritance no matter how much money they have. One of the surest ways to produce loafers and freeloaders is to let children know that their future is assured.

Maturity isn't a product of growing older. It's a product of growing wiser.

Bragging may not bring happiness, but no man having caught a large fish goes home through an alley.

Expect trouble as an inevitable part of life, and when it comes, hold your head high, look it quarely in the eye and say, 'I will be bigger than you. You cannot defeat me.

Nobody ever drowned in his own sweat.

If you want your children to listen, try talking softly - to someone else.

Class is an aura of confidence that is being sure without being cocky. Class has nothing to do with money. Class never runs scared. It is self-discipline and self-knowledge. It's the sure-footedness that comes with having proved you can meet life.

The naked truth is always better than the best-dressed lie.

Problems are inevitable. Misery is a choice.

No person who can read is ever successful at cleaning out an attic.

Make somebody happy today, and mind your own business

People of integrity expect to be believed. They also know time will prove them right and are willing to wait.

Blessed are they who hold lively conversations with the helplessly mute, for they shall be called dentists.

If you have a good name, if you are right more often than you are wrong, if your children respect you, if your grandchildren are glad to see you, if your friends can count on you and you can count on them in time of trouble, if you can face your God and say "I have done my best," then you are a success.

Pity the poor millionaire. He'll never know the thrill of paying that final installment.

Maturity is humility. It is being big enough to say, "I was wrong." And, when he/she is right, the mature person need not experience the satisfaction of saying, "I told you so."

If at first you do succeed, try something harder.

People have one year after the wedding to send a gift. Thank-you notes must be written immediately. If you don't receive an acknowledgment within three months, phone and ask if it was received. If the bride and groom are embarrassed, fine. They deserve to be.

No one can take advantage of you without your permission.

Friends with benefits? More than friends? Don't sample the goodies unless you're willing to risk addiction and withdrawal.

In recent years, there have been reports of people with twisted minds putting razor blades and poison in taffy apples and Halloween candy. It is no longer safe to let your child eat treats that come from strangers.

The best way to find something you have lost is to buy a replacement.

What we steadily, consciously, habitually think we are, that we tend to become.

trouble is not a sign of inadequacy, stupidity or inferiority, but rather an inescapable part of life - proof that you are a card-carrying member of the human race.

It is a mark of a superior mind to be able to disagree without being disagreeable.

Never let an opportunity pass to give a well-deserved compliment.

Some people take pleasure in regaling one and all with details of their poor health. They are happy to give an organ recital to anyone who will listen.

Some things get better with age, but after a certain point, the mind isn't among them.

Wake up and smell the coffee.

Children have an uncanny way of living up - or down - to what is expected of them.

No one knows what a marriage is like except the two people in it - and sometimes one of them doesn't know.

More divorces start in the bedroom than in any other room in the house.

Love is friendship that has caught fire . . .